April 27, 2009

How often do you worry?

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How often do you worry? You need to worry less and act more because all the worry in the world will not change a thing. I would like to take credit for saying that but it was 1973 when I heard it in a movie. The movie, was called Billy Jack. I was 10 years old and this movie had a profound effect on me and the rest of my life. To this day as a professional speaker, I try to remember this when I get into situations that “seem” uncomfortable or uncontrollable.

Most of you are aware of Susan Boyle at this point? She is the lady from Britain’s got talent that aired a week or so ago. What a case study for judging a book by the cover, and why we should not do that! Everyone (adults mind you) was laughing and chuckling at her as she walked out on stage, including the judges (adults mind you). Then this beautiful woman opened her mouth and began to sing. Now, many people like her for the right reasons and many like her for the wrong reasons. Many like her because she has a beautiful voice and a personality that is contagious, while others like her because they can make a lot of money off of her. I watched an interview with her and when asked what she felt when everyone was laughing at her she said she really didn’t notice because she had to stay focused on what she was there to do and that was sing. This is a woman who is comfortable in her skin and who taught thousands of people (if not millions) a valuable lesson in leadership last week. 

The point: There are unassuming leaders all around us and many times all they need is a fair chance. Be careful to judge people by what they appear to be, rather, they should be looked at by what they are. True leaders lead by example and Susan Boyle’s ability to stay focused in the face of adversity proved her to be a true, and genuine, leader. Confucius once said, “think twice, then say nothing.” good food for thought.

April 13, 2009

What are we in such a hurry for?

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        I was at the local gas station just finishing filling up with gas when a van pulled in behind my truck. The gentleman rolled his window down and spoke towards me. I could not hear him so I walked back to his van and he asked me if I could fill his van with gas because he was “all crippled up” as he put it. I was kind of in a hurry but I said sure and moved my vehicle forward, paid for my gas then came back out to fill his tank. While the tank was filling I asked him if it was his legs and he said no it was his back and hips. He said he was 84 years old but said it was tough being crippled up. The tank was full by now and the total was $22.30. He gave me $25.00 to bring in to pay for gas then bring him his change. When I brought him his change, he wanted me to keep the change but I told him it was my pleasure to help him out and gave him his money and wished him well.

        The thoughts that were going through my head the whole time were as follows:

  • Years ago there was a time when people actually “took the time” to fill your tank for you as a service for coming to their place of business. They even checked your tires, fluids, and washed your windows for you. 
  • This man actually trusted me to fill his vehicle for him, take his money and then actually bring him his change. 
  • I was thinking how much time it took me to take his money, go inside and get his change, then bring it back to him and how we are always in such a hurry. The question really is, in a hurry to do what? 

        We need to be careful to NOT be in such a hurry that we are no longer willing to help others. George Carlin made a couple points that have always stuck in my mind. First, he said, ” In today’s society, we have longer lives but we live less.” Second, he said, “we can send a man to the moon and get them back safely, but we can’t walk across the street and greet a new neighbor anymore.” 

       Be sure to always make the time to help others (without wanting something in return) because it is a great feeling and you will still get your work done. With all the gloom and doom in the world today, there will always be hope as long as we take care of each other.


April 10, 2009

Here We Go…….

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Welcome to my new website and blog. As you can see by my website, I am a professional speaker and trainer. I hope you get a chance to go through the whole site as I am very proud of it. The site was created by Adam Havens of Havens Design (havensdesign.com) and we couldn’t be happier with how it turned out. The goal was to develop a site that screams quality yet is easy to navigate. Bullseye! 

While I speak on various topics, the core of what I do is share with people how to be successful on purpose. This is what the content of my blogs will be about. I will write contemplations and thoughts about the tools needed to become and remain successful and happy on purpose. I may use current events to illustrate a point or simply share real life experiences pertaining to these goals.

I am excited today, as it is the official “go live” day for the site as well as the official “release” day for pre-ordering my new book, It’s Great to Be YOU! You can see it on the site as well as save 15% by pre-ordering. The availability date is May 15th. 

I hope you enjoy my blogs, share them with friends and always remember, It’s Great to Be YOU. Don’t forget to sign up for my free electronic newsletter which will be produced monthly. Hope to see you here again soon….

Create a great day for yourself……..


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